Sex is a fascinating thing even in childhood; and sexual feelings are an integral part and experience of growing up. It is therefore a natural and healthy evolution that should not be shrouded in secrecy, as many parents do.
Secrecy and made-up stories designed to shield children from the truth about their sexuality can only cause more problems, confusion and guilt feelings. Instead, children should be gently and lovingly taught and made familiar with the truth about sex, so that they can grow up into positive, healthy, mature and balanced personalities. Lack of child sex education creates more peeping-toms, porn addicts, rapists and other pervert sex personalities.
With the unfortunate calamity of explicit sex and internet porn upon us, it is even more the duty of parents to properly prepare their children for life in the larger society. Being naturally curious and mentally alert, children are fast and easy learners. Child sex education can therefore begin at a very tender age, long before a child grows up and begins to get exposed to the negative influences of the internet.
Couples should make sex education for their child an integral attribute of a truthful and disciplined family relationship. When couples display intimacy and lack of inhibition about sex and nakedness, they send a direct and sensitive message to the child. You have nothing to lose because already in many families, it is not uncommon for children to overhear or even ‘catch’ their parents making love.
Therefore, while the higher mysteries and deeper intimacies of sexual union should be reserved for later years, a child should be gradually introduced to the ordinary mechanics of love-making and allowed to enter into the parent’s circle of love; instead of being shut out completely and left to wonder how daddy and mommy do it.
Here are 5 tips to get you started with educating your child about his/her sexuality:
Couples can deliberately leave the bedroom door open or ajar while expressing intimacy.
Call upon your child to bring or take something away while you are expressing intimacy.
Take your child into bed with you and allow him or her watch as you share intimacy.
A mother should feel relaxed breast-feeding her baby while her husband makes love to her.
A couple should have no inhibition having their child watch as they share intimate embrace.
If intelligently applied, these situations will create an atmosphere of love and openness that helps you to gently and lovingly pull your child into the sacred circle of sex. That way, you naturally and positively initiate your child into his or her sexuality. Your child will love you for it, and be ever grateful for such loving, reassuring and indelible experience. All the best!